Middle-Aged Crazy Guild Part VII

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Re: Middle-Aged Crazy Guild Part VII

Postby Morwenna » Thu Mar 02, 2017 9:52 am

Too long since I've been in this thread...

The friend we went to Pennsic with was diagnosed in September with liver & pancreatic cancer, and died in October. I still miss him. :( We talked on the phone almost daily for years. He was one of the ushers at our wedding.

Hubby's disability came through in September, and we had enough to treat his brother & SIL to a nice dinner on our own wedding anniversary in October, then spent a few days in the casino and the attached outlet mall and Mystic Seaport where we got to see the Viking ship before it was put up for the winter, and eat a lot of good food in various places.

Now, with his pension and disability payments and my pay and Social Security, we're finally able to put some money aside! I would love to retire but I don't feel we can afford it yet.
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Re: Middle-Aged Crazy Guild Part VII

Postby Gilestel » Sun Mar 12, 2017 9:07 am

AIN'T AMERICA JUST GREAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Re: Middle-Aged Crazy Guild Part VII

Postby Morwenna » Wed Mar 15, 2017 8:57 am

Our friend who died wanted his books to go to us (knowing we like some of the same things and re-sell a lot of them; in fact he had already given us a bunch when he was thinning out his library) and his computer stuff to go to another couple, also friends of ours, and his medieval stuff to go to whoever wants it; this other couple and we were the only ones to accept his cousin's invitation to her house after the funeral. We all told her then what he had wanted, and she said that after she got through his papers she'd get in touch with us, but there was no rush on anyone's part. She called about a month ago but nobody was available; she called again last night and we set it up for this Saturday. We've been gathering some empty boxes just for this purpose. And we've been moving our stored stuff into a larger bin (consolidating the 3 we have into one even larger will save us money) and there will be room for his stuff too. Of course we're dealing with winter storms right now too...
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Re: Middle-Aged Crazy Guild Part VII

Postby Old_Begonia » Fri Mar 24, 2017 9:14 am

Morwenna wrote:Too long since I've been in this thread...

The friend we went to Pennsic with was diagnosed in September with liver & pancreatic cancer, and died in October. I still miss him. :( We talked on the phone almost daily for years. He was one of the ushers at our wedding.

Hubby's disability came through in September, and we had enough to treat his brother & SIL to a nice dinner on our own wedding anniversary in October, then spent a few days in the casino and the attached outlet mall and Mystic Seaport where we got to see the Viking ship before it was put up for the winter, and eat a lot of good food in various places.

Now, with his pension and disability payments and my pay and Social Security, we're finally able to put some money aside! I would love to retire but I don't feel we can afford it yet.


I am so sorry to hear about your friend. How shocking, to him, his family, and to you. :cry2:

I am very GLAD to hear about your husband's disability payments. I've known some folks who've fought for a couple of years to get it. Glad it came through for you.

Sounds like you had a lovely anniversary, though it must have been quite poignant without your friend.

My situation is quite lovely at the moment. I have two of my five adult children living within a mile of me (along with 5 of my grandchildren), another just a couple hours' drive away, and another a day's drive away. Still one in the wind, but he's Air Force and may not do as he chooses. But he seems content with his life so I don't worry.

I do miss the old days when I couldn't wait to see who said what on which thread. I spent so many hours here on TORC, but life caught up with us, it seems. I started a blog about a year ago, begoniarising.com. I just paid the annual subscription for it, so I suppose I should compose something to post there...I actually put 'writing' on my schedule. Well, posting here qualifies, right? :D

Well, ladies, I hope you are all having a wonderful day.

OH! Hey...in case anyone is interested...

Have any of you heard about Oroville Dam, in NorCal?

I live about an hour from there and had driven up there with my sister and husband, and we met my cousin who lives in the area. We want to see what we could see of the emergency spillway in use for the first time. We had seen some footage taken from a local news helicopter, but wanted to view it for ourselves, if we could. We went to the [very nice] visitors' center, and climbed a two story viewing tower, but it is situated behind the dam, so our view was from the top of the water. Having been there last summer, and seen the lake nearly empty, it was in fact quite dramatic to see the parking lot covered in water and the water itself disappearing over the edge of the emergency spillway like some giant eternity pool. We drove around downstream, through the town of Oroville and got the best view we could, but it was nothing like what we could see on the news footage. But it was still fun. So then we went to a coffee shop and had some lunch. We chatted for a while on the back patio, but pretty soon, about 4:15, the waitress came and apologized but the shop closed at 3 and she had done all the rest of the cleanup and we would now have to leave. It was fine, we were ready to go since the sun was getting low and the temperature would be dropping soon. We drove back to the grocery store parking lot where we had met our cousin and left his car. Just as we had finished our goodbye's and waived my cousin on his way, all three of our phone's shrieked.

***BLERT!!!*** ***BLERT!!!*** ***BLERT!!!***

THE AREA YOU ARE IN IS IN IMMEDIATE DANGER FROM A POSSIBLE COLLAPSE OF THE EMERGENCY SPILLWAY AT OROVILLE DAM.
EVACUATE THE AREA IMMEDIATELY.

**THIS IS NOT A DRILL**
**THIS IS NOT A DRILL**
**THIS IS NOT A DRILL**

Well, that got our attention. We turned on the radio, my husband drove, and my sister and I checked our phones for more information. We were able to make it to the freeway with no discernible traffic issues, we continued to monitor the situation as we drove home. We were hearing more and more about heavy traffic snarling as the evacuation continued, and realized how fortunate we had been that the coffee shop waitress sent us on our way when she did. As it was, we were home without delay or troubles.
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There is something profound about standing AT sea level.
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Re: Middle-Aged Crazy Guild Part VII

Postby Morwenna » Sat Mar 25, 2017 8:02 pm

WOW! What an experience! :shock:

Our friend died after our anniversary, though we knew he didn't have much time left; still, we thought we'd have more time than that! He had arranged for cleanup people to dig out his house and was going to have us take his books while he was still alive but that didn't happen. Instead it was his cousin, his executrix, who had to deal with it all.

It took us 2 trips on 2 separate days to get all his books that we wanted (we left the purely scientific & technical books behind) and a few oter things besides; we're going to take the two tall bookcases from his bedroom but that will mean another trip. His cousin sounds eager to get it all finished, but her husband is more laid back; he says that the first place to be emptied will be the attic and they haven't even arranged for the people to come do it yet. So this coming week sometime we'll call to set up when we'll get the bookcases.

Poor hubby; every thing we claimed, he said it was like picking our friend's bones. Cousin-in-law says don't feel that way; I say better us than a bunch of strangers, especially ones who would just dispose of it all. There's very little the cousins wanted for themselves. Our friend was an only child who never married, and his parents have long since gone.
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Re: Middle-Aged Crazy Guild Part VII

Postby Old_Begonia » Tue Oct 20, 2020 9:00 am

Well, this won't do!

**sets about dusting, de-cobwebbing, stoking the fire, and brewing some mulled wine**

I smell orc toes roasting nearby.
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Re: Middle-Aged Crazy Guild Part VII

Postby Morwenna » Sun Oct 25, 2020 2:23 pm

Wow! Revitalization! :D

Since last I typed, we lost another friend (from the same town); she died right before Thanksgiving, in 2018. And talk about picking a friend's bones: she named ME as executrix! Plus hubby and I are half her heirs, the other half being her local favorite charity, for which she had volunteered long and often. Very long story short, she was a hoarder (which we didn't really realize till she was gone) and she had a lot of very good stuff and plain old trash all mixed up together. We started off with representatives of the charity plus some friends of ours (and hers) helping sort through her stuff, but one by one people had other things on their plates and when I finally gave up on hoping for more personal help, and we still faced dealing with her more expensive items, I got hold of an estate-sale group, only for our efforts to be halted last spring by the pandemic. Now since the lawyer's office is on my case about getting the house sold, and we already have a realtor, the sale group realized that we could actually have the sale this fall, and last weekend it happened. Now we just have more small stuff, of which I put aside some stuff for us and will two days from now set aside for the charity folks, and the books which will be donated to her favorite library sale, and the few large items left will be taken on consignment by the sale people, so God willing by next weekend the house should be empty. The realtor already has a list of potential buyers. The best part of the house is its location, because she bought a fixer-upper 23 years ago and never fixed it up. But still, half the proceeds are ours; last year the annuities were distributed to save on taxes even though the whole estate was still pending.

And as for picking bones: hubby and I took all her personal stuff and some of her smaller useful or fancy things; the charity got the bulk of what we could lay hands on that wasn't obviously big-ticket, for their own semi-annual tag sales; our helper friends got a few useful or decorative things for their trouble; and it wasn't just the house, it was also 2 storage bins offsite, one of which we all emptied over a year ago and the other which still has some stuff in it (which the estate is still paying for). It would have been nice to have had it all done a year ago, to save money on storage and utilities (and taxes), but that wasn't the case.

To complicate issues, hubby broke his ankle in July of last year and was out of commission for half a year, between the hospital, the rehab facility, and the hospital bed in our living room. In the midst of all that, I had a hysterectomy last year in August. Then this past February hubby broke his right arm in 2 places. All that didn't help our ability to deal with her estate either!

So now we're looking at the home stretch... I hope...

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Re: Middle-Aged Crazy Guild Part VII

Postby Old_Begonia » Thu Oct 29, 2020 9:54 am

Oh, dear Morwenna, what a time you've had. I'm sorry for your loss...and the injuries sustained by you and your husband. Your friend trusted you to weed through the things she could not, in life, deal with, and it sounds like you've been faithful to her wishes. When my late father-in-law passed back in '82 it took us about two years to unravel and wrap up all of his affairs, even though my mother-in-law survived and was living with us. Partly because of her debilitating anxiety/depression, and partly because things were just that complicated. Not a lot of money involved, but a ton of paperwork. The CPA we hired to help us sort it out told us the size of the file, the number of pages involved, reflected a six-figure income. The total was a very modest five figures. Still, it was enough to allow us to purchase our first home.
As Helen Hayes so famously said, "Old age is no place for sissies!"

Meanwhile, I have a new grand baby: Roosevelt Columbia! How's that for a baby name!?! As soon as I figure out how to post pictures on our new and improved board, I will share. :D
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Re: Middle-Aged Crazy Guild Part VII

Postby Morwenna » Fri Oct 30, 2020 7:18 am

Congratulations on the grandbaby! (Boy or girl? You can't tell by names anymore.)

So that's the source of that quote... I've been paraphrasing that for years.

We still haven't emptied the house; the sale got rid of a lot of stuff, I took some more for us, the representatives from the charity have come and got more, and tomorrow (Saturday) everyone's supposed to be there: us, the charity folks, and the sale people, to hopefully clean out the joint! Meanwhile, the annuity distribution (which we already got) and the proceeds from the sale plus when the house gets sold, that will probably get us a house of our own too. Whoever heard of senior citizens going from renting to buying?? But that's our dream; I want to be able to retire while knowing we'll always have a physical home. I really hope we can buy a house outright, or at least have a very tiny mortgage.

Meanwhile, yesterday was my annual physical and the doc gave me the updated shingles shot, and warned me that it might leave me achy and tired for the next few days. He sure wasn't kidding! (Oww...)

And with all this stuff going on, I never even decorated the house for Halloween. I never miss out on a holiday, but this fall with the estate stuff it was all too much. The farthest I got was themed towels in the kitchen & bathroom.
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Re: Middle-Aged Crazy Guild Part VII

Postby Old_Begonia » Fri Oct 30, 2020 10:50 am

Roosevelt Columbia is a girl, and given the deliberately non-gender name. Her parents are both feminists who want to 'smash the patriarchy' and Dad is just as committed as Mom. We'll see how that works out. When this kid turns 13 and insists on being called Rose or Rosie...all their plans may be down the tubes. BUT when it comes to writing resumes and school applications, the non-gender specific name may come in handy. We'll see.

I'm glad you got that shingles shot. I've never had shingles and I do not want to get it. Sounds like a nightmare. Hopefully the aches respond to OTC meds and you can get on with your day without too much discomfort. Coming down the home stretch here...

Home ownership, the American dream, right? Well...interestingly we have been looking at refinancing. Whether to refi for a much shorter term, keeping the house payment the same, but being able to pay it off in 15 years rather than living with the remaining 25 we have on our current loan...

OR...

Refinancing for another 30 and lowering our monthly payment by $300.

At our age the possibility of living long enough to pay off our house is kind of a toss up. We are nearing 70. While his family all lived into their 80s and 90s, most on my side passed in their 70s, although on my mother's side they lived longer, she passed early because she smoked. ANYWAY...we are leaning towards the new 30 year.

Our original plan had been to live here ten years and sell, move down to a smaller house, with a smaller mortgage. But the timing was not on our side. Right about the time we should have been selling, the bottom dropped out (2008), and we were underwater for a while. I wasn't too bothered about that, it came around eventually. And hubby doesn't like any of the smaller houses with smaller mortgages. He likes smaller NEW houses with bigger mortgages. So...here we are, 30 years later. Having refinanced a couple of times to pay off other debt, and to start his business, we are not sorry for past decisions, but have to be realistic about our current options.

We'll see. Meanwhile, I'm the balance point between two daughters: one with three children, two of them special needs, so she has lots and lots of experience with babies and nursing and all the rest, and the other, younger daughter having just had her first baby in the middle of a pandemic lockdown. Gramma can't come and help...so she has to resort to books and the internet. She's got it in her head the baby can be trained to sleep on a certain schedule. She read a book. :roll: amirite?

AAAAND tomorrow I'm back to working at the vote center. Getting up and having to go to 'work' some place, where I have to be on time, be responsible for myself, my food etc...I'm so accustomed to lazing and grazing all day. Well...it's only four more days. This too shall pass.
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