Hey Isildilme and Almatolmen.
Wow... it's really hard to explain the pronounciation to you but I'll try my best. Lilja is the flower lily in english and it is a fairly common name here in Finland. Lilja 4ever is a tv show here and I think I watched some years ago but it was nothing special.
Anyhoo... The finnish pronounciation is difficult to explain. The letter "j" is soft and short. There is no "z" in it. Lilya with an english pronounciation is pretty close.
Isildilme, thank you for you efforts, especially if have gone through a rough patch. I know something about rough patches since my first wife died some years ago. I've learned to live with it and accept it. That being said I know there is one thing I learned from that situation, there is always something good even in bad things. I feel I am a bit stronger now and definitely more down to earth. I know I live in the now and not in the past etc. All the best to you. Take care and thank you.